| WHAT THIS PAGE
IS ALL ABOUT |
| If you are in the position of needing to overcome some
obstacle in your personal life that stands in the way of progress
as you see it, or simply to improve, then this page is for you.
Your "obstacle" could involve absolutely any aspect including
your character, your personality, or your future. |
| WHO AM I AND
WHAT GIVES ME THE RIGHT TO GIVE ADVICE? |
| My name is Doug Harvey. I don't have any fancy letters to put
after my name, I simply give this information based on much
research and personal experience. You will not find page after
page of information here (except through the particularly
selected links you will find ), the information will be as
concise as I can make it. You need to ponder on it and study it
out in your own mind. Nor will you be asked to part with any
money. What I offer is personal to me and I believe should be
freely available to all people everywhere. I ask nothing in
return other than perhaps to be considered a friend. |
| WHO THIS PAGE
IS NOT FOR |
| Many of us - myself included - have made the mistake of
simply picking a book with the topic of self-improvement and
personal growth off the bookshelf, reading it, getting excited at
the prospects and then putting it back on the shelf and got on
with our lives thinking how wonderful things could be. If you are
not prepared to take action, then thank you for taking the time
to look this page up, but it is not for you. |
| INTRODUCTION TO
THE PRINCIPLES |
| When you travel along many of the roads and highways of the
world, you will come across signs or milestones in various forms
that give an indication of how far it is to a particular
destination. ~The Principles" should be considered as these
milestones with each one bringing you nearer to your ultimate
destination. |
| PRINCIPLE ONE:
Being Uncomfortable |
| You are possibly already feeling uncomfortable. Uncomfortable
with some aspect of your life, character or personality. You
probably wouldn't have read this far otherwise. Being
uncomfortable is good. Let me repeat that: Being uncomfortable is
good. Let me explain why. |
| What would happen if you were to sit on a chair that had a
pin pointing directly upwards? You would get up pretty darn
quick! Right? if you will forgive the pun, that's the whole
point! Being sufficiently uncomfortable forced you to the
position of the next principle - having desire to do something
about it! |
| PRINCIPLE TWO:
Obtaining Desire |
| It is not enough to simply want to change some aspect of your
life. Wanting is no more than wishing. If you believe you can get
what you want by doing nothing more than wishing, then you need
to go back to becoming far more uncomfortable! I may wish for
anything I want in the whole world, but is that going to get it
for me? No it isn't. If I had sat in that chair with the pin,
would I be content with wanting to get out of it? No way! I would
have a raging desire to remove myself from that position! |
| What is real desire? Such desire is intense. It is a driving
force that provides unfaltering motivation to do something.
Nothing will prevent action being taken, so deep is that
desire. |
| Let me share a personal example with you. |
| When I was sixteen, I used to walk the fields with my dog
feeling very distressed and worried that I would never find a
girl who would want to go out with me, let alone find a wife
later in life. My personality was such that I was very quiet,
very reserved, severely lacking in confidence. At dances I would
sit or stand around at the side drumming my fingers to the beat
of the music desperately wishing I could dance with one of the
girls there, but I couldn't do it. They might reject me. I was
like that throughout the following two years. After those two
frustrating years, enough was enough. |
| At eighteen I left home and established myself in a city some
300 miles away. Being so far from home added to my desire to do
something about my situation. I was reaching desperation point.
The opportunities were there for me to meet and talk to others.
Now was the time to act. I was being driven by the depth of my
desire. |
| PRINCIPLE
THREE: Know Your Destination |
| Walking up to a ticket office at a railway station and simply
asking for "One rail ticket please", is not going to get you very
far. You have to specify exactly where it is you want to go,
otherwise no ticket. No further action can take place. The lack
of being able to give a destination has a further effect. How
will you know if you have arrived at your destination if you did
not know where it was in the first place? You have to know where
you are going, you have to know what your objective is. If you
jump into a car, start the engine, start to accelerate, but don't
make good use of the steering wheel, your journey will arrive at
a destination very quickly! That destination though, will very
likely not be your choice and could potentially leave your life
in ruins. So take hold of the wheel and guide yourself forward to
the destination of your choosing. |
| PRINCIPLE FOUR:
Make Your Objectives Achievable |
| I like to take a walk out in the countryside from time to
time and appreciate all that nature has to offer. Going off for a
couple of hours or maybe half a day is not unusual with me. If I
were to set the objective of climbing Mt. Everest in such a short
period of time, it would not only be unrealistic, but would also
not be achievable. |
| When an archer aims for a target, the point of the arrow will
be seen to some extent to be pointing higher than the target
ahead. This is to compensate for gravity |
| Every single person has a right that no-one can take from
them. In every single situation in life we have the right to
choose for ourselves, the response we might take. In some
circles, this is known as "Free Agency". What is important to
recognize however, is that the consequences of any action we
take, come automatically. I can assure you that the consequences
of helping myself to the cookie jar when I was a boy came pretty
quick too! More than my feelings were hurt! The only way you can
control consequences is to be extremely careful about the actions
you take. Consequences are always dependant on actions. |
| A Parting
Message..... |
| I firmly believe that if you have a strong enough desire, you
will always move forward. I have applied these principles in my
own life and achieved great success. I don't mean that I am a
millionaire with the yacht, Rolls Royce, and so forth. I mean in
the things that count. Within my own personal life and
circumstances. Let everyone take positive control, place their
own definition on the word "valuable". For those who believe in
an afterlife, see who can still draw on their "riches" at that
time. If there is something on your mind and you need to talk to
someone about it, feel free to drop me a line. I cannot promise
to solve all your problems, but I can be a friend and who knows?
Maybe between us, we can discover a more positive future. Why not
email me
today? |
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